An Pinagsarô nin Diós

 

Giya sa Prayer-Meeting nin mga Saradít na Komunidad nin Pagtubód (SAKOP) para sa semana kan Octubre 6-12, 2024. Basahon an Evangelio gikan sa Marcos 10,2-12 (Ika-27 Domingo sa Ordinariong Panahon - B)

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May mga nagháhapót kun anó na daá an posisyon kan Simbahan dapít sa divorcio lalò na ta nakapasár na an Divorce Bill sa Congreso. An posisyon kan Simbahan iyó an pagigin maimbód sa kabôtan ni Jesu Cristo satóng Kagurangnan. Sa Evangelio malinaw Niyáng sinabi na sa katagasan nin pusò nin mga tawo, nagtugot si Moisés sa divorcio, alagad poón sa kapinônan nin paglaláng, bakô iní an kabôtan nin Diós. An sabi pa ni Jesús sa Marcos 10,9: “An pinagsarô nin Diós, daí pagsuwayón nin tawo.”

Anó pa an katukdoán kan Simbahan dapít sa pag-inagóman? An katuyuhán kan pag-agóm, susog sa Katekismo (CCC 1601), iyó an karahayan kan mag-agóm asín an pagpangakì dangan pagpadakulà nin mga akì.

An Pagkaminootan nin Mag-Agóm (Unitive)

Iní an enot na misyon nin mag-agóm o an unitive na aspeto kan sacramento nin Matrimonio. Pinagiromdom ni Jesús sa Marcos 10,7-8 an enot nang nasurat sa Genesis 2,24: “Babayaan kan tawo an saiyang amâ asín inâ, asín an duwá magigin saróng lamán.”

An pagkaminootan nin mag-agóm halè mismo sa Diós na Pagkámoót. Iní isinasabuhay ninda maski dipisil asín dakúl an tentación. Kayâ kaipuhan na pareho sindang tataóng magpatawad asín magbâgo, magsabot asín magmaboot. Si San Pablo nagtukdô sa mga mag-aragóm sa Efeso 5,21: “magpasakop kamó sa lambang sarô bilang paggalang ki Cristo”. Kayâ an pangúngulóg o pag-abuso sa agóm, daí tugot nin Diós. An agóm na minagibo kainí iyó an causa kan saindang pagsuwayan.

An Pagpadakulà nin mga Akì (Procreative)

An pagigin magurang an ikaduwáng misyon nin mag-agóm o an procreative na aspeto kan Matrimonio. An gabós na mga magurang may katongdán na itaó an mga pangangaipo kan saindang mga akì asín padakulaon sinda nin tamà. An mga Cristianong magurang, may sarô pang particulár na misyon: an ipamidbid an Diós sa saindang mga akì.

Magigibo iní kan mga magurang sa pagtukdô sa mga akì kan mga pamîbî asín devoción kan satóng pagtubód, sa pagdará sainda sa Simbahan asín sa mga sacramento, sa pag-adal nin Biblía asín mga katukdoán kan Simbahan, asín sa pagtaó nin marhay na padara sa búhay Cristiano.

Pâno kun daí an mga iní ginigibo kan mga magurang? May pagiromdom si San Pablo sa Efeso 6,4: “Mga magurang, daí nindo pag-uyamón an saindong mga akì, kundî padakulaon sa hulit asín adal nin Kagurangnan.” An iresponsableng pagka-magurang asín pag-akì nin labí sa kakayahán na magpadakulà nin tamà, pagsuwáy man sa kabôtan nin Diós.

An Pagsaksi sa Pagkámoót nin Diós (Kerygmatic)

Sarô pang misyon nin mga mag-agóm na Cristiano iyó na sinda magin “saksi sa maimbod na pagkámoót nin Diós” (CCC 1648). An pag-agóm tandâ kan pagkasínaroan ni Cristo asín kan Simbahan, kayâ si San Pablo nagtukdô sa Efeso 5,25: “Mga agóm na lalaki, kamòtan nindo an saindóng agóm na babae, siring man saná ki Cristo na námoót sa Simbahan asín idinusay an sadiri para saiya”.

Pag sinasabuhay nin mga mag-agóm an saindang mga sinumpaán sa kasál – na “magin saróng pusò asín saróng kalág, sa karahayan asín kasakitan, sa kayamanan asín kadukhán, sa kahelangán asín sa kaginhawahan, sagkod na sinda magadán” – minákusóg an pagtubód kan mga nakakáhilíng sainda sa institusyón nin kasál asín pamilya, asín sa mismong maimbod na pagkámoót nin Diós.

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GIYA SA PAGHIRÁS SA SADÍT NA KOMUNIDAD O PAMILYA | Maghirás nin experiencia o observación kun pâno naisasabuhay nin mga mag-agóm an “magpasakop sa lambang sarô bilang paggalang ki Cristo” (Efeso 5,21).

PASUNÓD-SUNÓD KAN WEEKLY SAKOP/FAMILY PRAYER-MEETING | Kumustahan/Pamiridbidan • Disposition to Prayer / Silence • Gathering Song • Opening Prayer • Gospel Reading • Reflection • Sharing • Scripture Response • Prayers of the People • Closing Prayer • (Spontaneous and Our Father) • Closing Song

An Pinagsaro nin Dios

Giya sa Prayer-Meeting nin mga Saradit na Komunidad nin Pagtubod (SAKOP) para sa semana kan Octobre 3-9, 2021. Basahon an Evangelio gikan sa Marcos 10,2-12 (Ika-27 Domingo sa Ordinariong Panahon - B).

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May mga naghahapot kun ano daa an posisyon kan Simbahan sa giraray na pigbubusol na bill sa Congreso para sa absolute divorce. An posisyon kan Simbahan iyo an pagigin maimbod sa kabotan ni Jesu Cristong saiyang Kagurangnan. Sa evangelio malinaw an Saiyang kabotan: “Huli sa katagasan nin saindong puso, nagtugot si Moises, alagad sa kapinonan bakong siring kaiyan” (Marcos 10, 5-6). Dangan, “an pinagsaro nin Dios, dai pagsuhayon nin tawo” (Marcos 10,9).

Ano pa an katukdoan kan Simbahan manunungod sa pag-inagoman nin lalaki asin babae? Susog sa Katekismo (CCC 1601), an katuyuhan kan pag-agom iyo an karahayan kan mag-agom asin an pagpangaki dangan pagpadakula nin mga aki.

An Pagkaminootan nin Mag-Agom. Ini an enot na misyon nin mag-agom o an unitive na aspeto kan sacramento nin Matrimonio. Pinagirumdom ni Cristo sa evangelio an kabotan kan Dios na Kaglalang manunungod sa pag-agom. Susog sa Genesis 2,24: “binabayaan kan lalaki an saiyang ama asin ina, asin minasaro sa saiyang agom na babae asin sindang duwa nagigin sarong hawak.”

An pagkaminootan nin mag-agom hale mismo sa Dios na Pagkamoot. Ini isinasabuhay ninda, minsan dificil nin huli ta an tawo bako perpekto asin dakul an tentacion sa buhay may agom. Kaya nanggad kaipuhan na an mag-agom parehong tatao magpatawad asin magbago, magsabot asin magmaboot. Si San Pablo nagtukdo sa mga mag-aragom sa Efeso 5,21: “magkinuyog-kuyogan kamo bilang paggalang ki Cristo”.

An Pagpadakula nin mga Aki. An pagigin magurang an ikaduwang misyon nin mag-agom o an procreative na aspeto kan Matrimonio. An gabos na mga magurang may katongdan na itao an mga pangangaipo kan saindang mga aki asin padakulaon sinda nin tama. An mga Cristianong magurang, may saro pang particular na misyon: an ipamidbid an Dios sa saindang mga aki.

Magigibo ini kan mga magurang sa paagi kan pagtukdo sa saindang mga aki kan mga pamibi asin debosyon kan satong pagtubod, sa pagdara sainda sa Simbahan asin sa mga sacramento, sa pag-adal nin Biblia asin mga katukdoan kan Simbahan, asin sa pagtao nin marhay na padara sa buhay Cristiano.

Boot sabihon dapat ginigibo na an mga ini kan mga magurang. Ta kun dai, anong klaseng pagtubod an ipapasa ninda sa saindang mga aki? Si San Pablo may pagirumdom sa Efeso 6,4: “Mga magurang, dai nindo pagpadagiton an saindong mga aki, kundi padakulaon nindo sa Cristianong disiplina asin katukdoan.”

An Pagsaksi sa Pagkamoot nin Dios. Saro pang misyon nin mga mag-agom iyo na sinda magin “saksi sa maimbod na pagkamoot nin Dios” (CCC 1648). An pag-agom tanda kan pagkanisaroan ni Cristo asin kan Simbahan, kaya si San Pablo nagtukdo sa Efeso 5,25: “Mga lalaki, kamotan nindo an saindong agom siring kan pagkamoot ni Cristo sa Simbahan”.

Pag sinasabuhay nin mga mag-agom an saindang sinumpaan sa kasal – na “magin sarong puso asin sarong kalag, sa karahayan asin kasakitan, sa kayamanan asin kadukhaan, sa kahelangan asin sa kaginhawahan, sagkod na sinda magadan” – minakusog man an pagtubod kan komunidad sa palibot ninda, bako sana sa institusyon nin kasal asin pamilya, kundi sa mismong maimbod na pagkamoot nin Dios.

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GIYA SA PAGHIRAS SA SADIT NA KOMUNIDAD O FAMILIA • Maghiras nin experiencia o observacion kun pano naisasabuhay nin mga mag-agom an “pagkinuyog-kuyogan ninda bilang paggalang ki Cristo” (Efeso 5,21)?

PASUNOD-SUNOD KAN WEEKLY SAKOP/FAMILY PRAYER-MEETING • Kumustahan/Pamiridbidan • Disposition to Prayer / Silence • Gathering Song • Opening Prayer • Gospel Reading • Reflection • Sharing • Scripture Response • Closing Prayer (Spontaneous and Our Father) • Closing Song

 

 

God's Gift

A Wedding Homily for Emman and Sarita Kare-Telado

St. John the Baptist Parish Church, Tabaco City

15 October 2011

St. Bernard of Clairvaux says “We find a home in those we love, and we provide a home for those who love us”.  

In many ways, Emman and Sarita’s wedding is a coming to a home, a homecoming, to their hometown, and to this very church. This is where they receive the sacraments: where Sarita was baptized, were both of them had first communion, received confirmation, and attended Sunday Masses with their families. Both of them and their classmates from grade school may still remember the many First Fridays when they had to cross the street from CCS to attend Mass here. Who would have thought at that time, that Emman and Sarita would find themselves together today in this church to receive the sacrament of matrimony and found a home, a family of their own?

Their love story is also a coming home to each other. Having been classmates in grade school, they went their separate ways through high school, college and work. Until that fateful class reunion in 2007. We’re not sure if there was any love at first sight for one or both of them. But we’re sure they are glad that they took a second look. After around two years, for Emman, after mustering the courage to say the right words and do the right moves; for Sarita, after getting to know again Emman much closer this time – they became a couple. After another two years, here we are today.

A Wedding Homily

We are here today to witness and pray for Ferd and Cha who are about to receive the sacrament of matrimony. I do not wish to dispense advice, only to articulate the things already present but which we don't always see.

1. The little things are the big things.

Matrimony is the sacrament of love. And love is made up of the little things. It’s not just about holding hands, it’s the way you hold hands together. It’s not just about having daily conversations, it’s the way you inject kindness and concern when you talk with each other. It’s not just about being naturally thoughtful, it’s the way you create memories and cherish them. It’s not just about being understanding, it’s about being ready to forgive when one is weak or has fallen. It’s not just about helping each other, it’s about making sacrifices so one may help fulfill the other’s dreams.

Faithfulness of Couples, Faithfulness of God

HOMILY
27th Sunday in Ordinary Time – 4 October 2009

Readings: Gn 2:18-24; Ps 128:1-2, 3, 4-5, 6; Heb 2:9-11; Mk 10:2-16 or 10:2-12


The Gospel story this Sunday is yet another polemical episode between Jesus and the Pharisees. Once again, they were trying to trick him with a question: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

The passage in question is Deut 24,1: “When a man, after marrying a woman and having relations with her, is later displeased with her because he finds in her something indecent, and therefore he writes out a bill of divorce and hands it to her, thus dismissing her from his house…”

Divorce is allowed in ancient Israel. The test is in the interpretation of the line “something indecent”, ‘erwath dabar. For those who follow the strict interpretation of Rabbi Shammai, ‘erwath dabar means a case of adultery. For those who are of the “lax” school of Rabbi Hillel, it could mean any offense or displeasure, e.g., burning the soup or whatever.

Jesus once again escaped the dilemma by turning the petty difference upside down and targeting the very institution of divorce. Deut 24,1 is a concession to human weakness, to stubbornness of heart. He appealed to authority higher than Moses: God. He was clear about what God ordained from the beginning. Gen 2,24: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.”

By saying so, Jesus established faithfulness as essential to married life and prohibited divorce in the clearest of terms.

Let us define fidelity in three ways:

1. Exclusivity

But first, a story… A middle-aged wife was feeling resentful of her husband’s apparent forgetfulness of their wedding anniversary date. But it turned out the husband actually prepared a surprise celebration for her. Still a bit embarrassed, she retorted: “But you haven’t even sang our theme song. Or have you forgotten it already?” Husband: “What was that again?”. Wife: “Only You” (in hurt tones). Husband: “Oh that, I changed that already a few months ago. It’s no longer “Only You” but… “Nobody, Nobody but You”.

Why exclusivity? Because God willed it so: Man and woman should be married only to one spouse. Gen 2,24 says a man leaves his parents and clings to his wife, not to his wife and his kabit…

Exclusivity also fits the natural order of things. Monogamous relationship is universally regarded as the more ideal relationship for couples, even and especially for cultures that practice polygamy.

Once in a while I get asked: “When does infidelity start?” I answer that I will never know the whole gamut of experience that married couples go through but I am sure that infidelity doesn’t start with an actual relationship or even with an attraction. It starts in the mind, when you start entertaining the possibility that you could manage two relationships, when you start hiding from your spouse little things because there really is good reason for her/him to better not know about them… when a husband starts changing the names in his phonebook of some of his female friends into male ones. And the wife is left to wonder why a certain “Brando” has several texts to her husband with the words “i miz u”.

A married friend told me: “If you want an uncomplicated happy married life: keep it simple. Be faithful.”

2. Equality

A Jewish tradition makes an analogy about the Eve-from-Adam’s-rib story. The woman was not made with a bone from the man’s head for it would mean that she is superior to the man, nor from his foot for it would mean that she is inferior to the man, but from the side to show that they are equal in dignity.

The words in the wedding liturgy stresses that both husband and wife are equal in the life of grace, they are co-heirs of the Kingdom.

A usual argument against the equality of husband and wife is Eph 5,22: “Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.” A simple reading of the entire periscope though would lead us to Eph 5,21: “Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ.” And to Eph 5,25: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her.” Who is subordinate to whom is not the point of the passage but that the love of the couple should mirror the love between God and His Church.

3. Lovingkindness

Lovingkindness, hesed, is a common description of God’s love and faithfulness in the Old Testament. Lovingkindness is the anti-thesis of “stubbornness of heart” which compelled Moses to allow divorce. Marriages break down because of either one or both of the couples’ “stubbornness of heart”.

When we talk of lovingkindness in fidelity, it means that a marriage should not just be something to endure, it should bring out the best in the couple and in their children.
Fidelity is affirmed in everyday deeds of kindness, in the simple (and cheesy) gestures of affection, in the many acts of sacrifices which the couple makes together for their love and their family.

Conclusion

There is a deeper theological significance in the faithfulness of couples: it reflects the faithfulness of God.

We humans get to know our God through the instrumentality of symbols. We get to know him through others. We get to know His love through the love of others. Where does all this start: in the family, in the parents, in married couples. When couples show their fidelity to each other, and that they are happy with each other – their children, their family and friends, and the rest of the community, also get to know the love and faithfulness of God, and the happiness He brings.